“When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.” Proverbs 10:19
Tempered talk is evidence of a wise conversationalist. It’s when our words are many that we run the risk of soliciting sin. Increase in the amount of words increases the probability of improper speech. For example, a respectful conversation does not repeat over and over again the same words and phrases in a confined period of time. This impatient cadence frustrates the listener.
Perhaps a look of misunderstanding requires questions for clarification, or definitions for comprehension. Proud conversationalists can highjack a hearer’s understanding with a hoard of meaningless words. If your goal is to communicate, then take the time to listen to the needs of your audience. People who feel cared for and understood have a keener sense of hearing and understanding. The Bible says, “Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue” (Proverbs 17:28).
Wise people weigh their words before they speak. They allow their mind to catch up with their heart. Furthermore, in the face of wrong behavior, emotions need to sometimes express themselves. Let the other person know if you feel mistreated or misinformed. Concealed anger leads to living a lie (see Proverbs 10:18), but tempered talk is truthful and to the point.
Lastly, reserve your words out of respect for the other person. If you do all the talking, you are the center of attention. It becomes condescending conversation, because the other individual does not feel important enough to speak up. So, you honor others when you speak less, and listen more intently on how you can love them. Wisdom can be found in the words of each person you meet. Therefore, intentionally talk less and be wise. The Bible says, “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry…”(James 1:19).
Related Readings: Job 2:3; Amos 5:13; Titus 1:10; James 3:2
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With whom do I need to listen more, and talk less?
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This is great advise!!!
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